Welcome to
The Psychotherapy Clinic

Couples Therapy

Individually we carry  a dream with us, a half-fulfilled dream that will need that special someone to complete it. When we meet that special someone, we begin to see the fulfilment of this dream together.

Marriage is a time where we get separated from our "family", venture into a new space where we, both husband and wife, will begin to build our own structure together. Many do not realize that in the foundation of this structure, there is a mix of both our dreams, our personalities, our idiosyncrasies, our heritage from our family of origin, our core values and our worldviews.

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When the storms of life hit us, we panic and rush to tear down this structure which provides this family with a shared sense of belonging and security. What's left is the basic foundation covered with bits and pieces of ourselves, then we fight each other to the end, as we perceive that our core values are being trampled and disrespected. By this time, things had gotten too personal each hitting the other below the belt.

Contempt, stonewalling, criticism and defensiveness set in threatening to destroy this marriage.

​I have worked with many families and couples only for them to realize that they somehow still hold the dream of each other in their hands, not letting go and still wanting to re-construct the structure again. The process of trying to put the pieces together again can be painful, bitter, often fraught with hopelessness and helplessness, extreme emotional pain, denial, threats of suicide and each challenging or waiting for the other to let go.

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Whether it's a breakdown in communication, adultery, differing values, disrespect, feeling unloved, unreasonable behaviour or any reasons that are causing this drift and shattering your dream, I will work with you to unravel the root issue and manage the relationship in a way that is acceptable to both, without changing the basic identity of either

Group Work

Central to the group process is the opportunity for members to talk as openly as they possibly can about their interactions and experiences of each other as well as any aspects of the group experience that may come to mind. By engaging with one another on different emotional levels, individuals can freely gain wider perspectives about the various ways they relate to their inner world, or unconscious, and how this becomes reflected in their relationships with others.

As awareness increases, individuals may begin to recognize newly found aspects of themselves. It is within the supportive and relaxed atmosphere of the group experience that such feelings can be recognized, acknowledged, and replaced with conscious, uncontaminated choices in social behaviours and verbal attitudes. The courage to allow these kinds of meaningful connections to take place can help to resolve emotional conflicts and difficulties with feelings of mastery and empowerment.

For each individual, the rewards of creating a place that is their own can be a place that is very real and fully connected. It is a place to be who they are without the need to “fit-in” to a set pattern.

Just as individuals bring old learned behaviours and attitudes into the group they may take new ways of inter-relating outside the group. This may enable individuals to cultivate healthier inter-dependency with others, as well as increased expressions of mature and authentic intimacy.​

(Source : goodtherapy.org)